On the bus to work yesterday I overheard two girls talking. I turned my music up really loud to try to block out what they were saying but even so, their words made it through to my brain and I’ve been pondering them ever since.
They had read an article in a magazine about a woman who had a physically abusive partner. It turned out though that ‘all’ he did was pin her against the wall on a regular basis while screaming abuse at her.
The girls were laughing about it, about how that wasn’t abuse but part of a normal relationship.
One of them was saying that her boyfriend was always doing that to her but it was ok because she knew he loved her, and the woman in the magazine should ‘get over herself’ and ‘be grateful she’s got a man’.
I can’t help but feel the two girls are destined for a life of domestic violence…
Relationships should be built on mutual trust and respect not violence and shouting.
They were only kids themselves, somewhere between the ages of 16-18 but even so, surely anyone can see that situations like that are wrong and shouldn’t be excused. I brought it up with my 13 year old daughter last night and she agreed with me (which, I feel I should point out, is not a normal occurrence at all). What has happened to those two girls to make them think it’s normal? How messed up are we as a race that behaviour like this is considered the norm?
And the question that scares me the most? Are we too far gone to recover?