Preparing for the Future

My daughter is now in her first year of college. I’m working part time, because as I’ve said in an earlier post, it makes more sense both financially and for my little family’s happiness. However things are going to change. From September 2018 my girl will have left college, and all of the benefits I receive will stop. Everything. Child Benefit. Tax Credits. Housing Benefit. And the Child Maintenance her dad is currently paying.

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Remember the little things

It’s late, I’m tired, and I have to get up at stupid o’clock for work, but I need to get down what happened today before I start forgetting bits of it.


I’ve recently met someone who has blown me away with their perspective on life. 

In my eyes, he’s had more than his share of bad luck. Among other things, he lost his daughter and wife (the one great love of his life) in a terrible car accident several years ago. Right now he’s going through daily radiotherapy. If anyone has a reason to be angry at the world, it’s him.

We were talking today about life, racism, rudeness, etc., and I remarked that people are just a bit shit. 
His reply blew me away:

“People are amazing! They do wonderful things every day. They hold doors open for you. They let you out at busy junctions. They jump out of their cars to help you push start yours. Everywhere you look, people are doing wonderfully kind things for each other. The world’s an amazing place if you remember the little things are important too.”

I’m not ashamed to say I had tears in my eyes. I felt completely humbled: here was a man who has been dealt so many bad hands, but he had the ability to see past that. To see wonder everywhere.

Invisible Illness?

This post was born after a brief conversation with a good friend on Instagram. He was talking about how he had finally come to accept that his depression/ocd/anxiety was a disability.
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Are Prisons Too Soft?

The government is assessing whether prisoners should be given iPads to help them keep in touch with their families while on the inside. They could also be used to help with literacy, numeracy, and help convicts to gain skills ready for the outside world.

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The Return

I can’t sleep. I woke with a migraine today, which resulted in me sleeping on an off (but mostly on) for about 6 ½ hours during the day. So now, having been in bed for an hour with no sign of sleep, and a million thoughts running through my head, I find myself returning to my blog. Continue reading

Petrol and Poverty

One of the big problems of being a low-waged single parent, is having to focus all of your energy on financial matters, 100% of the time.

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